Sunday, May 4, 2008

A tribute to Bobb James, actor

Bobb James in The Sunshine Boys, TST 1999



One of the most beloved actors in the history of Tibbits Summer Theatre, Bobb James, will not be appearing this summer. Since the fall of 2005, Bobb was fighting liver disease. I drove him home from Florida, where he was about to go into rehearsal, to let him end his days in Coldwater. Instead, with the help of some of his best friends, he fought back. He stopped drinking and there was enough liver left to produce a near miraculous recovery. The Bobb I knew best returned, and we did some of our best work together. He was back onstage, writing, and feeling great. But by the beginning of 2008, it was a different story. And on Saturday morning, May 3, just days shy of his 56th birthday, Bobb died peacefully at U of M hospital in Ann Arbor.


Where to begin?


That voice. Bobb had one of the best instruments I knew. A leading man’s voice in a character actor’s body. But he finally found the roles: Juan Peron in Evita, The Governor in Best Little Whorehouse, Michael in I Do I Do, Honore in Gigi. He excelled at anything that could show off his felicity with words and bring out the native born Brit: Henry Higgins in My Fair Lady, Andrew Wyke in Sleuth, Charles Condomine in Blithe Spirit. He delighted in (and was delightful) in farce: …Forum, Charley’s Aunt, Footlight Frenzy, Lucky Stiff and Lend Me a Tenor. Or on the flip side which we didn’t see nearly enough: Mass Appeal. It threatens to become just a list-- with 22 seasons at the Tibbits--- playing over 70 roles. And there were countless roles in Nashville, Dayton, Birmingham and in Florida.


It was no secret that I directed him in many of his best parts. He was such an instinctual actor. He made it look easy. But I knew the tricks--I rarely let him get away with the easy choice. We could speak in shorthand--while the rest of the company wondered what the hell we were talking about--but the performance emerged richer and more layered.


We didn’t do it often in later years, but we enjoyed being on stage together. Harvey springs to mind. The Gershwin brothers. And mention must be made of Once Upon a Mattress where few can forget Bobb as King Sextimus teaching me, as a very slow Prince Dauntless, the birds and the bees in mime….


Then there’s the writing, over 20 plays, the best of them written together---my spare style meeting his effuse one, creating a better whole. Sort of like our life together…


One last thought: Several year’s ago, a season subscriber was at the ticket window. She was listening to the rundown of what shows we were doing. The patron cut the box office manager off. “Just tell me if that Bobb James is gonna be here. That always means a good show.”


Not this year, ma’am.


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A Celebration of Bobb's Life will be held onstage at the Tibbits, May 15, 2008 at 7:00pm.
Please no flowers. All memorials will go the Tibbits Restoration Fund.

23 comments:

  1. Charlie,

    I am so sad to hear this news. There is a very special place in my heart that has always been and will always be Bobb's.

    Love,
    Mary

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  2. Bobb James, always such a devilish joy. To perform with him, play with him, and spend time doing what we all love with him was always an honor...and oh so much fun. I haven't seen or spoken with Bobb in such a long time, but it still feels like losing a member of the family; for that is what we all became when we worked together.
    Dearest Charles, I know this
    must be nearly impossible to deal with and my heart and prayers are with you especially, and with all who ever loved Bobb. Love always and always, Cindy Horsman McKeen

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  3. Bobb - we all miss you!

    We worked together in the late 80's and early 90's - I was Tibbit's office staff and Bobb was Summer Theatre actor. What a joy it was to see you everyday. I remember a particularly funny moment when Bobb and I were trying to move a floppy old mattress - he at one end and me at the other. By the time we dropped it onto the truck, we were rolling on the ground laughing.

    Love and laughs to all who knew Bobb and loved him.

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  4. What a gentle and loving soul we have had in our mist.
    Bobb was a person of great talent and his heart showed in every performance. The little I got to talk with him it was evident that he felt deeply for his work and for the people in his life. His concern for each person he connected with was exquisite.
    May we all find the gift of this life and pursue our dreams as passionately as Bobb lived his.
    namaste,
    lauri

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  5. This is sad news! I have loved so much of Bobb's work over the years. He is a mainstay of Tibbits summer stock. He will be missed.
    Great Blog, Charles.
    Looking forward to your 2008 season.
    -chris tower

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  6. Dear Charles and the Tibbits Family,

    I am terribly sorry to hear this sudden news. I had worked with Bobb a few summers ago, and saw everything to detail of how Charles descirbed him. A talented , loving, kind man, who seemed to love nothing more than performing on stage for the people that cared. I was priviledged to be apart of Bobbs Hall of fame. I will never forget that summer. Best wishes and prayers to everyone who mourns the loss of this wonderful man.

    Daniel Gutierrez

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  7. Dear Charles,

    Bobb will always be Grandpa to me from "You Can't Take It With You". I learned so much working with him, and enjoyed his wisdom & humor immensely. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on him, I couldn't agree more. I used to love to come over to the cast house & listen to his stories. He will be missed, but most importantly, remembered very fondly.
    Love, Elizabeth Kensek

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  8. Over the past 6 years I have known and worked with Bobb I grew very fond of him. From acting with him in "You Can't Take It With You" and "Gypsy" to directing him in "The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas" and "Little Shop of Horrors" I enjoyed working with him very much.

    I will always remember his sense of humor when it came to his dancing ability. He always said that he wasn't a dancer, yet he worked very hard on the steps I gave him and always succeeded in making them his own and forwarding the narrative of the play. Perhaps my favorite moment was in Little Shop at the end of Mushnik and Son when he leaped in the air, flicked his arms and legs as he was exiting and proclaiming "OY!" It always got a laugh and it proved that you don't have to have classical ballet training to be a dancer. I will miss him dearly.

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  9. Dear Charles,

    I am so sorry to hear of your great loss. I never had the chance to work with Bobb, but I understand he was an amazing talent and I know he and his work will be missed by many. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

    Love,
    Paula Makar

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  10. We can't describe our sadness at hearing this news. Working with Bobb was always an education and we were amazed at how sweetly shocking he could be, but yet shockingly sweet. We'll never forget those summers of laughter, music, inappropriate remarks and (mostly) great shows.

    If it hadn't been for Bobb's stint at Timber Lake Playhouse and helping get Tim a job at Tibbits, we may have never met. We owe a lifetime of happy memories to our dear friend Bobb.

    Our deepest sympathies go to Charles and all those who had the pleasure of working with such a memorable soul. His kind will not be seen here again....

    Love,

    Tim Salamandyk & Jeff Bledsoe

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  11. Dear Charles,
    My heart is sick that I missed the chance to see you and Bobb in Cincinnati this winter. Peter was thoughtful enough to let me know this depressing news. Know that I am praying for you.
    I thank you from the bottom of my heart for putting me on stage with Bobb so many times! He will always be my Higgins! Oh how sad it is to realize that his wonderful, resonating voice and laugh won't be filling the house. Trust that he touched so many--both audience and cast members--that he will be missed, but certainly not forgotten!
    He was always a TRUE gentleman to me and I will never forget him or the many unforgettable moments we shared on stage!
    God be with you as you navigate the coming weeks and months.
    All my love,
    Marnie

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  12. The loss of Bobb James saddens all of us who worked with him at Tibbits in the early 1980's.

    Who can forget nights at the Firehouse, lyrics lovingly written for the Annual Non-E Awards (I still retain a crumbling, typed copy of a parody of "Let's Do It" featuring the names of everyone in the company and ending with "Naughty Uncle Bobb...") and stories of visiting Cole Porter's grave?

    Michael Mele wrote to me, "It brought back many memories, especially of him in his little costume in the 'Lady and the Tiger' section of 'The Apple Tree' carrying a spear and wearing glasses."

    Those of us who worked in Coldwater in our 20's are now in our 50's. The friendships formed at Tibbits have lasted a lifetime and brought us all much laughter and joy. Bobb was part of that lifetime, and provided much of the laughter and fun.

    Let me then speak for the gang from '81 and '82 (hope you don't mind me doing this, my friends.) We'll all miss him dreadfully.

    Ruth E.Kramer
    NYC
    TST 1976, 77, 80, 81, 82

    Also speaking on behalf of (although un-authorized to do so) James Lawson, Michael Mele, Samme Johnston, Karen Longwell, Craig Wells, and Vicky Devany.

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  13. Charles - It will be some time before it really sinks in that Bobb will no longer be on the Tibbits stage in physical form. His spirit will never leave that place, though. He's part of it forever. The girls and I began work at Tibbits 30 years ago, and Bobb was such a big part of those many years and many, many shows - too many to count any longer. Our girls grew up loving Bobb (and you), and their lives were enhanced by their many interactions with both of you. Bobb will be missed also by the many patrons of the theatre who always looked forward to another show with Bobb James in it! It was often a question I was asked in the community each year as we planned for the summer season. Know that our love and prayers are with you always! --Anne Davidson and family

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  14. Dear Charles (& extended Tibbits family)--

    I was so shocked and saddened to hear this news. I kept shaking my head, thinking "what a tragic, tragic loss."

    I remember Bobb as a jovial, buoyant, talented person...a gentleman and friend to all--even to those he had not known for a long time (like me). He and you, Charles, made me feel like a welcomed part of the Tibbits family. I'll always remember my summer at Tibbits as one of the most important and joyous times of my life, where friendships were made that still stand despite the time and the miles. I thank you for that--and I promise to thank Bobb in my prayers.

    Love,
    Karianne (Arnold) Soulsby

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  15. Tribute To A Friend...

    (spoken in a low, ominous voice:)

    “Don’t F--- Up…”

    It was the Nightly Mantra from Bobb that you could absolutely depend on just seconds before the curtain went up on any show you ever did with him… At once comical and comforting—it was “classic Bobb,” and somehow his way of admonishing you to both have fun, and to take the work seriously—two things he did impeccably in the work he loved so much… It was also his way of not-so-subtly letting you know that if you DID make a mistake out there, he always, ALWAYS had your back…

    I couldn’t have known any of this, on that first day in the Summer of 1992 when I met Bobb…I was a fresh-faced kid just out of college on my first professional acting job, and he was the veteran actor—the staple and “anchor” of the Theatre that I was coming into—This place called “Tibbits Opera House…”

    It was at the Schiedler’s Opening Day Barbeque that I got my first glimpse into this guy. We were slated together to do “GREATER TUNA”—a two man comedy—as the last show of that Summer.
    I had not yet read the script, and had no idea that some of the many characters we played appeared in drag… Bobb, in his inimitable way, approached me at the party and introduced himself with one of his signature bear-hugs, saying, “Well baby, we’d better get to know each other, because by the end of the Summer it’s just going to be you and me on the beach in pantyhose…”
    I swallowed hard and feigned a weak smile, but secretly wondered what the heck I had gotten myself into…

    Well, 16 years and dozens of shows together later, I can tell you exactly what I’d gotten into…

    Professionally, one of the single best actors I’ve ever worked with—Whether comedy, musical or dramatic: playing a king, a senator, a priest, my father, even my MOTHER (again, GREATER TUNA!)—Bobb could do it all… While every show I got the privilege of doing with him is special, I will particularly cherish GREATER TUNA, BRIGHTON BEACH MEMOIRS, BIG RIVER and especially MASS APPEAL (another two-man show) with him… From him I learned an immense amount about comedy, timing, rapport with an audience, and even “covering” my own (or someone else’s!) flubs onstage…
    Talent wise, there will never be another like him…

    Personally, he was one of the funniest people I ever knew. His incredible dry wit, his sarcastic humor and his ability to laugh at just about anything was another true “life lesson” for me… Be it slipping in a joke to lighten a tense note-session, his infamous “Bear-talking” with Charles, cooking for all of us “Yankees” on July 4th because we’d beaten the Brits in the war, or even finding the ironic side of his own health-challenges, Bobb’s example of “not taking anything too seriously,” while at the same time “honoring the value in everything,” is a quality that I still seek to emulate. His friends--and especially Charles--meant the world to him, and they KNEW it… Again, you knew with Bobb, he ALWAYS “had your back…”

    And finally, Spiritually--he was one of the Kindest, Lovingest Souls I have ever met. The warmth of his hugs, the depth of his understanding and compassion when you had a problem, the joy of that unmistakable hearty laugh and humor—they all attested to that. He often joked that when it was all said and done he’d be “looking up” at us; but I know—we ALL know—that he is unequivocally looking “down…” on us tonight… God himself needs as many like Bobb up there as He can get…!

    In closing, I realize these few brief remarks don’t even come close to explaining the depth of my feeling for this man, nor the impact he truly did have on me as an actor, and as a person…

    But I as I reflect upon my friend and mentor, I am reminded of one other “mantra” that often came out of him just before the curtain went up…
    Whenever I found myself getting too worked up or anxious or nervous about a show, he would warmly put his hand on my shoulder and simply say…

    “Relax, baby…It ain’t Art…”

    But in YOUR case, Mr. James,
    I beg to differ…

    You WERE-- “Art…”

    And we all will miss you very, very dearly…

    --Peter R
    May, 2008

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  16. Charlie,

    Dan Higgins here. You may remember me from EMU. Bobb and I were like brothers back then. I had'nt spoken to him in the last 8 or 9 years but he was always on my mind and in my heart.
    In the last couple of weeks I had this overwhelming need to find him and I did a Google search...that's how I found out what had happened. It would be just like him to send me a message from beyond!
    I met Bobb at the college radio station, WEMU, back in 1972 or 73. We became instant friends right from the start. In case anyone ever wondered where the extra "b" in Bobb came from, I'm the guy who gave it to him. When he first came over his accent was so thick. While he was recording an intro to the classical music show he hosted he said his name. I hit the intercom and shouted "Bobb? Is that with 3 B's?" He laughed, I laughed, and our friendship was launched. I'm proud that he kept the third "B". It made me feel I was still a part of his life.
    I miss him so much Charlie. I'm so angry that I can't talk to him. I regret loosing touch with him. He will always be a special part of my life.

    Dan
    ethree@charter.net

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  17. I have no idea what possessed me tonight to burn the midnight oil and Google old friends... And to find this... Sleep will not come easy.

    When I think of Bobb, I will remember the work, the laughter, the insanity, and the love.

    Charlie, I am deeply sorry for your loss.

    Todd Hissong

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  18. I just heard the news and felt compelled to write in this blog. Bobb, Charlie and I go way back to ou'r days at EMU. They were my "best buddies" during those four years. We did everything together. We worked, cried and laughed together. Memories are flooding my mind--studying for Theatre History, hiding in the deep freeze at Meijers, sliding down the refrigerator at Ken's, Bassomatic, being the happiest date at the "theatre prom" with my guys, sharing a upper flat in Lansing, and singing "Let's Misbehave" onstage at Tibbits(we always did misbehave). Bobb will always be in my heart. Charlie, you will always be in my heart. In honor of Bobb, Charlie, we must stay in better contact. I can't believe that I will never see my smiling Bobb again(I will see him someday). My thoughts and prayers are with you, my dear friend, Charlie.....Much love, Paula

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  19. Terrible to be so late in this, but perhaps it keeps the tributes rolling, as they should.

    The years at Tibbits were the happiest times I had as an actor. My first year there, 1985, the first show I got to do with Bobb and Charles, CHARLEY'S AUNT. Bobb colored his hair with a dye named "Lucky Copper." His timing was utterly gorgeous; I watched him through rehearsal and in performance in delight. Every subsequent season I looked forward to what I would get to peform with him: Saunders and Max in LEND ME A TENOR, Honore and Gaston in GIGI, RUMORS, SMOKE ON THE MOUNTAIN, getting to sing "Brush Up Your Shakespeare" together in COLE. Always sheer delight.

    I remember trying to distract him at the end of Act I of FUNNY GIRL as he played a tender scene with Fanny - I mooned him from stage left. He glanced my way, raised one eyebrow, and continued the scene.

    During dress rehearsal for ANNIE GET YOUR GUN, a child actor was accidentally pushed off the stage in a wheelbarrow, to no real harm. While others shrieked in horror, he calmly quoted a song from the show, singing, "There you go..."

    He made rehearsals fun, parties fun, quiet nights on the porch fun.

    What a joy to be able to remember this man and those wonderful times. I'll think of them always.

    Patrick Barnes

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  20. Ditto on the tardiness. I just happened to enter Bobb's name in a Yahoo search, and came upon this news. I knew him in drama school at Eastern Michigan. A technician/design student named Christopher J. Bidlack, who was also at EMU in those days, once wrote a kind of music-less "song" about Bobb called "The Bobb James Song".

    I will e-sing the first verse as my own belated but nonetheless sincere farewell (and my sincere albeit belated sympathy to Charlie):

    Bobb James! Bobb James!
    Who else do you know with two first names?
    Fresh off the boat! Smellin' like a goat!
    Came to Eastern Michigan; couldn't read nor wrote!

    Admittedly, not the highest art - but I was there in the Theatre Office (Room 103) when Bobb heard his song recited for the first time, and he *loved* it.

    Adieu, Bobb! Take care, Charlie!

    Micheal T. McLoughlin (aka M. Thom McLoughlin), D.Jur, M.A.
    San Francisco, California
    (President, EMU Players, 1983-84)

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  21. A dear, dear man.

    We were in Shaw's Caesar and Cleopatra at EMU and it was one of those large cast scenes with Egyptians and Romans in full intrigue with Caesar in his quarters, Cleopatra waiting in the wings and somehow the scene started to repeat like a continuous loop. Some actor kept starting the scene over but no one could quite figure out who. Anyway, we were starting the scene for about the 3rd time and it was all turning into a train wreck. Thankfully Bobb gracefully stepped forward and said: "Perhaps, Caesar, this would be a good time for Cleopatra to come in." And Caesar muttered, "...er, Good thinking Britanicus..." (Bobb played Britanicus, of course) And we were off and running again.

    Bobb was the only one to keep his head about him.

    I have thought of him very fondly over the years. It is my regret not to have seen him or Charlie for a very long time.

    My sympathies Charlie.

    Tim Monsion

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  22. Charlie - just found this so am remiss in extending my sympathies to you and all who knew Bo-b-b. Our good times in Homer on stage will always be close to my heart - Bo-b-b was often my leading man, and Bell Book & Candle will always remain my favorite. The Grist is gone, too, and thoughts of my family from back then rise longingly to the surface with tears welling up in my heart. John and I are so grateful to have had both of you in our lives and enjoyed so those grand soirees at the schoolhouse, and making pasties! Not to mention raucus after shows. Please know we think of you often! (P. Todd and John)

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  23. Sitting here in 2022 listening to the Evita soundtrack and thought of Bob. Did a little search and landed here with sadness to find he's left the stage. He was mesmerizing as Juan Peron in 86. I was in the children's choir and can still hear his voice in my heart singing 'another suitcase, another hall' I stood in the wing just to listen <3

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